6 months ago I had a best friend who I had strong feelings for. I've never had such feelings, but he abandoned me for his girlfriend. (I had strong feelings for him and his girlfriend knew and she gave him a choice me or her. Of course he picked her because he is hopelessly in love with her. However, he DID have some feelings for me which i suspect are gone now.) Then months later after I thought I was over him, I started dating this guy. He's the sweetest boy and I could imagine marrying him. Two months later though, my former best friend and I made up. And that's where all the problems began. I started falling for him or rather maybe I never stopped liking him? I don't know, but my dilemma is that I might have more feelings for him than I do for my boyfriend, which makes me feel horrible. This boy loves me and I could never abandon him. Not like my best friend did to me. (sadly, I believe that you can't choose who you fall for no matter how much you want to fall in love with someone.) And no matter how much my best friend has hurt me, I can't help but like him. We have(had?) this connection that I've never had with anyone else. And despite all his flaws, I still think he's "perfect". And I don't feel that way for my boyfriend. So, can you please help me? I don't want to regret anything. I don't want to give up my boyfriend because we might have something for the future, whereas, I know I have no future with my best friend because he loves his girlfriend so much. I don't want to give up something beautiful for a lonely life of solitude, but I find it unfair to my boyfriend. Please, help me. I'm so lost and please don't bash me. and could you answer it privately?
i say, follow your heart! dont worry about hurting anyone if you know what your heart wants! i say go for the boy you adore, tell him how you feel and see is he feels the same, NEVER SAY NEVER baby! anythings possible ;) xx
: heey, I was hoping you could give me some advice :)
I met this guy a few months back and we used to talk a loot, everyday, and flirt, he used to flirt much more "bold" than me bc Im shy but he used to say that he loved that I was hard. However, a few weeks back he started talking to me much less, like once a week or so- he used to get online less- and even though he would still be the one saying hi first he wouldnt make an effort to keep the conversation going. He keeps flirting with me and complimenting me but we barely have any meaningul or long conversations now. I've thought of asking him about it but Im not sure because it might not be a big deal. What do you think it means, and what should I do? Thank you! :)
naww babe this has happened to me so many times, and many of my friends as well, what will happen is it will probably lead to you guys not talking at all unless you talk to him now and ask him whats up, it might just be some family issues going on at the moment. The right thing to do is to ask him about it before its too late. hope i helped babey <3 xxx
Okay, so this is gonna be a long one.
I've known/been in love with him since seventh grade(I'm currently going into ninth) nd I've liked him since November of seventh grade. I don't know if he knew I liked him, but he always told his girlfriends about me( he had like three that year). They'd chat me and ask me if I liked him, stuff like that. We'd talk sometimes and hang out at ski club and just say hi I guess. But then he started to hate me when spring came around. He wouldn't talk to me and whenever I did, he told me to fuck off. He'd constantly call me annoying and just be mean. I'd ask him why he hated me and he just said I was annoying. Then in eighth grade, before I got my scheduel I put it on Facebook. We must have had classes together so he commented "FUCKKKKKKKK!" on the post. I looked at his profile and it turns out we had homeroom and four other classes together. during that school year I wouldn't really talk to him, but I still liked him. Then slowly he started to talk to me again. And then we'd get into a fight. And then the cycle would start over and over again. I just had enough and I stopped. It was months of us hating each other, but slowly we became tolerant of each other. Then we got in a big fight because he was talking about me in Spanish class, literally right behind my back. I got mad and yelled at the girl he was talking about me with(she was my ex best friend) and forgot about him until he commented on that girl and her friend's Facebook status about me. I wrote on his wall about how I can see everything he writes about me and hear every word he's said about me. I told him he was a pussy and a coward and can't say shit to my face. Then he blocked me. I decided that I would take the opportunity of not seeing him on facebook to help me get over and him and just give up. That was all in the beginning of June. Last week I was with my friend logged in as her and I saw that some girls were using me as an example of being cyberbullied (whole other story.) and he said "what ever happened to [my name]?" his friend said "mad lolz" and one of the girls asked if he was talking about what happened with me and the girls fight. He said "no not really" and "no, likeeee she deleted her Facebook...,," "but what happened to herrrrrrrrrrr" and then the one girl said how I deleted her as a friend on fb and probably blocked him. He responded with "fml". and it's like, ohh. Do you not remember your burning hatred for me and that YOU blocked ME. and I still see the pictures other people put up of him on my fb. I just can't get him out of my head! Uhh I hope this all made sense...
he sounds like the biggest dick head ever, darling, you need to get over this boy! i know you guys have been through so much together but he isn’t good for you! you deserve to be treated way better than that! xxxx <3